If you were a betting man (or woman), you’d probably agree that family stories are fairly memorable. So would I. Well, at least up until a couple weeks ago. It all started innocently enough. One of my sisters was taking a storytelling class. A recent assignment (beginning, you guessed it, a couple weeks ago) involved sharing one of those stories that must come up for a family gathering to actually be a family gathering. It was at this point that we discovered that some of our family stories haven’t been told as often as we thought. At least, they haven’t been told often enough for my sister to feel like she could track with them. It isn’t that they aren’t there, it’s just that in the hustle and bustle of life, we haven’t reminisced as often as we thought.1 It’s tempting to use this anecdote to jump off into sociological analysis, but I think it also points us to the importance of Advent in our lives. In order to understand this, though, a contrast will prove helpful.

If you’re a Hobbit, you love history, particularly family history. As Tolkien reminds us, “All Hobbits were, in any case, clannish and reckoned up their relationships with great care. . .The genealogical trees at the end of the Red Book of Westmarch are a small book in themselves, and all but Hobbits would find them exceedingly dull. Hobbits delighted in such things, if they were accurate: They liked to have books filled with things that they already knew, set out fair and square with no contradictions.”2 This takes family stories to a new level. It’s one thing to remember a couple of tales about life growing up, or from your parents’ and grandparents’ lives. Remembering a family genealogy is a different matter. Not impossible, but not exactly the way most people choose to spend their time. In this, Hobbits provide an excellent foil to our humanity. They delight in setting out and discussing their history where we, quite often, forget it.

The seeds of these thoughts bubbled up while listening to my pastor’s sermon a couple of weeks ago. Earlier this year, we began working through the book of Matthew. This, it turns out, has been an opportunity to indulge our inner Hobbits. As you might already know, Matthew opens with a genealogy. Rather than skimming and skipping our way through the first 17 verses of Matthew’s account, we’ve spent some significant time looking at who was part of Christ’s ancestry.3 This exercise benefits our congregation in two specific ways, outside of practical application and encouragement from hearing the Gospel. They are, simply put, the benefits of context and reflection.

Evangelical churches seem rather prone to forget or ignore that the Bible is a single book, rather than a patchwork collection of scraps of thought. Too often, we narrow our focus in on a single verse or book to the exclusion of the rest of the text. This is often coupled with a focus on “what [insert author name] has to say to us today.” Applying scripture to our lives is important. After all, it is the marching orders from our King. However, when we jump right to personalization before considering how a given text fits into the greater picture, we create opportunities for misinterpretation. One of the more common ways that we pass over context is assuming a separation between the Old and New Testaments. Spending time focused on Matthew’s opening genealogy provides at least a subtle reminder that the New Testament isn’t the beginning of the story. Its roots go back to the beginning of the Old Testament.

As a forgetful people, it’s not entirely surprising that we skip over the Old Testament roots of the New Testament. This highlights the importance of reflection in our lives. This idea is emphasized through the Old Testament. Consider the Psalmist’s use of reflection: “My soul is cast down within me; therefore I remember you from the land of Jordan and of Hermon, from Mount Mizar” (Psalm 42:6).4 It is also worth noticing the times where Israel sets up reminders to help ensure that the history of God’s work is communicated to future generations.5 In addition to these instances, though, it is of interest that Israel had routines built into their celebrations to help them review how God worked in the past. Moses provides us an example. After telling Israel to place the blood of the Passover Lamb on their doorframes, Moses went on to say, “And when you come to the land that the Lord will give you, as he has promised, you shall keep this service. And when your children say to you, ‘What do you mean by this service?’ you shall say, ‘It is the sacrifice of the Lord’s Passover, for he passed over the houses of the people of Israel in Egypt, when he struck the Egyptians but spared our houses’ ” (Exodus 12:25-27).6

All of which brings us back to Advent. From my low church perspective, Advent serves as an opportunity to remember one of the important parts of the world’s story: Jesus’ incarnation. Granted, not all churches formally utilize the church calendar. Still, we all recognize that, at least culturally, this is the time of year where we celebrate Christ’s birth. Practically speaking, this recognition reaches to the extent of a head nod. Read a couple extra scripture passages, sing some special songs, and tack up a “Jesus is the Reason for the Season” sign or set up a nativity out front. None of these things are particularly wrong, but neither are they particularly helpful, at least not without the elements of context and reflection. As members of Christ’s body, this is one of the times during the year where we have extra reason to tell part of our family’s story. Rather than letting the hustle and bustle of the season catch up with us, I’d encourage you (and myself) to use this time to reflect on Christ’s work. In particular, this is also a time to contemplate how his incarnation provides context to our lives. After all, the story is greater than we are. Taking time to ponder it will provide both wonder at God’s amazing work, and gratefulness that we are a part of it.

What have you been reflecting on this Advent season?
What new insights or appreciation for Christ’s work have your reflections brought?


[wpex more=”View Sources” less=”Hide Sources”]1. To be fair to the rest of my family, my sister’s requirements for her sample story were rather hard to fulfill.

2. Tolkien, J.R.R. The Lord Of The Rings, 19-20.

3. The sermon that sparked this blog post was the 6th looking at the genealogy in Matthew 1. As of the end of the sermon, we have examined the first six verses in the chapter.

4. Scripture quotations are from The ESV® Bible (The Holy Bible, English Standard Version®), copyright © 2001 by Crossway, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers. Used by permission. All rights reserved.

5. Joshua 4:1-7 provides an example of these memorials.

6. There is a similar direction in Exodus 13:8.

Photo Courtesy of Chelsea Francis

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2 responses to “Contemplating The Family Story”

  1. Lila Toney Fair Avatar
    Lila Toney Fair

    Another excellent piece! For my part , I have been reflecting on my own family history and how God has shaped each life in His special way. I keep finding extraordinary stories in my own family tree (and I know of others from friends’ families) of children who, by any normal “logical” means, shouldn’t have ever been born or survived childhood– stories of children born to fathers already dead from battle; children who survived the plague while the rest of their family died; children who were kidnapped and sold into indenture; soldiers who were spared in battles that killed 90% of their units. And then I look at the extraordinary family line of our Messiah–men and women who SHOULDN’T be there– Rahab, a prostitute; Ruth, from the land of Moab, whose descendants were not supposed to be allowed in the assembly for 10 generations!( Deut. 23:3); David, an adulterer who conspired to have one of his own generals murdered; Perez, the product of an encounter between a widowed woman posing as a prostitute and her father-in-law–God LOVES and USES broken, defective, sinful people to show His immense grace and power.
    As for new insights–I think reviewing the amazing story of Abraham and Isaac has given me new insight into the passion of God for the human race. I’ve heard many atheists use the story of Abraham and Isaac to claim that God is “evil”– that a good, kind God would not have asked Abraham to sacrifice his son as some kind of test of loyalty. But God DIDN’T have Abraham sacrifice Isaac, the son of His promise. He himself provided the sacrifice–as a foreshadowing of His own son’s death. In the end, it wasn’t Abraham left agonizing over the death of his precious son. It was God himself who watched as His only begotten son gave himself over to torture and death on a despised cross. It was God who had to hear the eternal echo of his own son saying “my God, my God, why have you forsaken me?” And it is this same God who hears from heaven every prayer of every parent who agonizes over the suffering of their child; every parent who suffers the pain of rejection and rebellion on the part of their own son or daughter; every person who spends sleepless nights praying for the salvation of an unsaved loved one.
    Yes, it’s crucial to take Advent into context–Jesus isn’t just in the manger or on a cross. He’s present in Genesis 1:1. He’s in the story of Judah and his sons (including Perez). He’s in the love story of Ruth and Boaz (quick trivia insert– did you know that BOTH of Ruth’s mothers-in-law are named in the Bible–Naomi was her first; Rahab was her second!). He’s present in the story of the kings of Israel, even during the “lost years” between the Old and New Testaments. And He’s there just before the last “Amen” of Revelation 22. Thank you for the timely reminder!

  2. Jody Byrkett Avatar

    Jeff, in response to your final question, what do you mean by reflecting on the “work” of Jesus? Do you mean the way He taught and spoke to people? Do you mean the crucifixion and resurrection? “Work” struck me as vague by the time I got to the end of your piece (as you didn’t really reference a specific work in the article—unless you meant His incarnation, which isn’t a work exactly), so I’m curious to know what direction you were going with that question. Thanks!

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